The secret of happiness,
you see is not found in seeking more,
but in developing the capacity to enjoy less. ~Socrates
The 4 statement about happiness
1. Many People are lacking Happiness.
2. Why is it so?
3. Happiness is possible.
4. There is a way of life to happiness.
What is unhappiness?
Unhappiness comes from a internal resistant towards change.
When something bad happens, people get stress out trying to change a reality.
But, he is unable to change something the way he wants it, thus he is unhappy.
Example,
A girl wants to break up with boyfriend,
however the boyfriend still loved her, and he doesn't want to,
This is a bad "change" that happen to him, and he doesn't like it, nor could he do anything about it.
He becomes unhappy.
He blames God and ask WHY!!
He becomes even unhappy.
He suffers.
Thus the first concept of happiness is about letting go.
but letting go is something intangible, it's something easy to say, but hard to apply.
To apply it, one must change his perception from negativity to positivity,
to practice contentment, to practice acceptance.
It is something that can be taught, but must be attained by oneself.
Let me give you an example about letting go:
In olden India, there's a way for people to capture monkeys.
They would cut a coconut into some sort of shape with a hole in the middle,such that a monkey would be able to place its hand into the coconut to grab the flesh,
however it is unable to take its hand out if it grabs the flesh.
Thus many monkeys were trapped by the people,
because once they have a touch of the sumptuous flesh,
They can never let go.
Letting go is about releasing the grasp of desire in this context.
In other context, it can be letting go of hatred, letting go of past memories...
There are 2 types of happiness in life.
a. Happiness from sensual pleasure.
When you eat something delicious you're happy.
When you see the person you like, you become happy.
to enhance sensual pleasure- be mindful when you do anything- enjoy them to the fullest.
If you're eating the world's best pizza, but on the same time,
you're thinking about your teacher's assignment,
Do you think that's going to be a taste of haven? lol
To be happy is to live in the present moment, to be mindful.
Hereby I attach two psychological way to enhance happiness from sensual pleasure:
First-time effect:
exp: when you're eating something, think in such a way " gosh this is the first time I've ever taste something so delicious!" then carry on, you will appreciate it better.
Last-time effect:
exp: " Oh no, could this be the last time ever to taste this food?" you will appreciate it more as well.
b. Happiness from wholesome thoughts, speech and actions.
-Positivity
-Happiness that comes from helping others. from nice things you said that made people happy.
-from doing something good.
things like that...
Before I end my write out, let me share with you a formula-
Google www Yahoo
In your mind, google What Went Well and shout out Yahoo!!! life is awesome.
but never ever google what went WRONG!!!
I wish you happiness in life :)
